Announcement: As of May 4, 2012, Samuel Martin's book
"Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking
Controversy" is now available for free - For details, please see - http://samuelmartin.blogspot.com/2012/05/pen-is-mightier-than-punch.html
Before you say “I
Do”
I have been
pretty active in the last five years or so concerning the issue of corporal
punishment and the Bible and I am pleased to say that I am thankful for some of
the results that have been and continue to be achieved through this activity.
I plan to continue right on in advocating for more accurate, studied
theological positions on this issue. So much more work needs to be done.
However, there
are many other social issues which need attention because people are hurting
and I really feel the pain that so many have. One area that has become
particularly important to me of late is the issue of marriage, divorce and
remarriage. This issue by the way is directly linked to the issue of corporal
punishment of children in many Christian contexts and I will have more to say
on that soon.
I have an
online friend who has suffered greatly in a marriage where her husband did not
treat her nicely for the last 25 years. For the last five years, she found
herself suffering from really terrible mental abuse. Thankfully, she was not
physically abused, but to be in a marriage to someone who does not act nicely,
behave like a caring person or show even the common decency that one would
expect from someone who is supposed to be in love with another person (which I
think is fairly obvious that people who are married should actually love each
other and that love should be growing stronger with time, not becoming weaker),
this is certainly not a pleasant experience and for her is was a time of great
personal suffering.
So, my online
friend reached out to me with a couple of questions. To make a long story
short, I would say over a time period of about one month, I was able to provide
my online friend with some solid information from the Scriptures that (along
with many other inputs) helped her a lot.
To any
Christian who is facing hard situations in life, accurate information from the
Word of God is often what is needed the most. We need accurate information about what the
Bible is teaching and about what it means for us today.
Let me say
though that I, of course, do not have a monopoly on the truth about this or any
other issue, but I do have God’s book in front of me to study and as I have
learned with my study of the issue of corporal punishment and what many Bible
teachers are telling us and have told us in the past, many of the
understandings that these dear people have may need a little modification.
I do not have
all the answers and I am not alone. In fact, let’s refer to a book which I
think shows very clearly the problem that many Bible believing God fearing Christians
are facing over this issue of marriage and secondarily divorce and finally and
very importantly, remarriage.
The book is
titled: “Divorce and Remarriage: Four Christian Views.” So just think
about that title for a moment and what it means practically. Before we do that
we need to know in summary what these four views are because let us not be
confused with the fact that there is no unanimity in belief on what the Bible
teaches on this issue and this is the case among major Scripture scholars
teaching in seminaries or at the university level around the world.
So what are the
four views? They are that the Christian Scriptures teach that:
1. There is
no divorce and no remarriage
2. Divorce
is allowed, but after one has divorced, remarriage is not allowed
3. Divorce
and Remarriage are both allowed if one has been the victim of adultery or
desertion
4. Divorce
and Remarriage allowed under a variety of different circumstances
Now concerning
this book, which came out in 1990, which I absolutely urge any interested party
to read, what we find therein are four essays by four Christian professors all
teaching at the university or seminary level and each one is advocating for the
truth of his (yes – they are all men in this book along with the editor)
respective position. Then in each chapter each of the respective authors rebuts
the position of the other professors.
Let me tell you
a fact. This book when I first read it got me so angry and annoyed that
Christians could not find unanimity on such an important issue. Sadly, in the
last 22 years, nothing has changed particularly in evangelical Christianity.
In 2006, this issue has been brought up again in another book called “Remarriage after Divorce in Today's Church: 3 Views.” Look at what Amazon tells us about this book.
“A biblical and practical case for three main evangelical views on remarriage after divorce Among born-again Christians, 27 percent have experienced divorce as compared to 24 percent in the general population. Yet no consensus exists among evangelicals on their views of remarriage, leaving many Christians confused. This single volume summarizes and explores three main evangelical views:
1.
No
remarriage
2.
Remarriage
after adultery or desertion
3.
Remarriage
for a variety of reasons.
Each of the
three contributors offers his point of view succinctly with biblical support,
and each interacts with the others to help readers come to their own
conclusions. Contributors include: Gordon J. Wenham * No remarriage after
divorce William A. Heth * Remarriage (two grounds) Craig S. Keener * Remarriage
(variety of reasons)” - http://www.amazon.com/Remarriage-after-Divorce-Todays-Church/dp/0310255538/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1337957646&sr=8-2
Yes, many Christians are confused over this issue and it’s no
wonder because even the scholars can’t agree on what the Bible teaches. All
along this confusion over such an important issue of marriage and who you spend
your life with is bearing fruit. If you do not have it right, imagine what kind
of fruit your marriage is bearing?
Let us not be confused. All of the contributors to both of these
books are evangelical Christian scholars who are teaching in a seminary or
university environment. It is their teachings that defend or shape their own
denominational perspectives and it is they who are holding up the status quo
that they were taught and believe. It is also they who are training a future generation of pastors, Bible teachers and professors.
But there is one important point about this book and the previous
book. All of the various positions taken cannot be right. In fact, in the first book, three out of
four of them are totally wrong. This is not me judging them. It is a simple
fact of arithmetic.
God has one view on the issue of marriage, divorce and remarriage.
That is clear. So, it is clear that it is impossible for all of these dear
brethren to be correct.
But what about those who are adhering to the teachings of those who
are wrong? What fruit are they bearing? The experience of my online friend
gives us a glimpse into such a situation. For those going through it,
especially the person being victimized, it is literally a hell on earth with, for some, no escape or way out.
Let’s not
diminish the importance of this issue to the lives of people. To my online
friend, I can see that she has basically been mentally tortured with being in
an awful marriage to a “man” who basically was a total jerk to her and her
kids. I put “man” in quotes because anyone who would treat his wife and
children in the way that my online friend described to me concerning her
relationship, this person, while indeed human, was anything but a real
dignified honorable “man.”
I’ve been very
interested as I said in the whole corporal punishment issue and I didn’t think
it was the right time to really branch out and discuss other issues which I
have not studied so much, but here I have to admit that while I have not personally
studied this issue as well as I have the corporal punishment one, I do have specific
authoritative Scripturally based resources which I trust 100% available to me which
represent the highest level of scholarship on this issue. So I feel absolutely
comfortable moving forward and writing about this issue.
Judging from the
reaction of my online friend to these resources, my belief and confidence in
these materials has been 100% confirmed.
So, since this
is the case, I will be silent no more on this issue and will be taking a
specific position concerning it. But before I tell you what that position is, I
think it best to give you the evidence for that position.
I would like to
thank my dear online friend. I pray that through your reaching out that some
other people might be blessed by a perspective which is closer to that which
was communicated by Jesus and the Apostles and the one today which Jesus is
still teaching us through the agency of His Holy Spirit.
ADDITIONAL NOTE:
Based upon on further researcher, I am delaying this series of posts due to new information I have learned. More coming on this soon.
ADDITIONAL NOTE:
Based upon on further researcher, I am delaying this series of posts due to new information I have learned. More coming on this soon.
