tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32879642.post1690395398905762213..comments2023-04-10T05:58:17.419-07:00Comments on SamuelMartin: Christian Father Shares Journey To Gentle ParentingSamuel Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10073427515747592924noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32879642.post-48585609087066446102014-07-19T18:57:13.208-07:002014-07-19T18:57:13.208-07:00Becky,
Thanks for writing. Really appreciated.
S...Becky,<br /><br />Thanks for writing. Really appreciated.<br /><br />SamSamuel Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10073427515747592924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32879642.post-25881322699059314812014-06-14T22:14:56.914-07:002014-06-14T22:14:56.914-07:00I think this article is great ! Although I differ ...I think this article is great ! Although I differ on a couple (non-critical) details. One thing is , my husband would never, not EVER read material unless we either read it together out loud or it comes to a point of "critical mass" to where he's desperate for a change. Also, he very much respects and listens to my opinion on spiritual and parenting issues...if I didn't pursue a change in our parenting (which was very limited in spanking due to abuse I suffered at the hands of "Roy Lessin" spankers , as well as emotional, sspiritual, verbal, & neglect )who'd also been the products of abuse and are not able to be in our children's lives. I've done intensive research and prayer over discipline for our 3dd (10, 8,& 4) we've mostly yelled and been quite honest with them "we were not taught by our parents a Godly way to handle our family and we are praying continually and trusting God to lead us but we mess up, you are free to talk to us about their feelings"....we daily ask forgiveness of them because we know we mess up often and seek out their input on our family life. I was led to gentle/peaceful/grace based/ attachment (which doesn't end after babyhood) parenting in just the last year *as well as unschooling....anyway, we have felt as though we are parenting ourselves and just figure things out as we go a long as well and it hasn't been easy (my parents divorced *after 33 yrs* in 09 and exploded my family *of 10* and my dad disappeared and mom has chosen a life I cannot expose my children to anymore/) my husband's father died of early onset dementia this year after 6yrs of sickness and inability to speak or understand anything. When I have spoken to my parents I have shared the true bbiblical stance on discipline with them and what it does to children in order that healing may one day be had for them and so they can understand that their actions directly affected my siblings choices to refuse anything to do with the Lord (and my many times in the hospital for depression and an eating disorder, which they've told me is just me being weak and attempting to get their attention....my mother in law continues to ask me "why won't you spank them? " for not CHOOSING to gain absolute control over my children's actions and them simply being children...I will note that we get compliments so many places we go at how sweet and loving our girls are... (our oldest was diagnosed ADHD a couple years ago as well as a sensory and language processing disorder (she basically has a very difficult time remembering the meanings of many things I say, and also loves feeling strange textures and still will get into some things much like a toddler*but she's brilliant and writes pages of lyrics of worship music and she and her sisters have outstanding musical ability. Our youngest is our first to throw actual fits in temper so this is definitely a trial with no family (and the church) not in our corner...<br />But God is amazing and has brought much more peace to our home. I've prayed and prayed that my husband would know how to spiritually lead our family but I also know certain things he'd not even consider let alone make a decision on on his own and asks me to take the reigns in helping him to understand....I'm incredibly blessed by your letter (but remember all men have different personalities , some appreciate a personality in their wife and for her to take different actions:) <br /><br /> Bless, your wife, & your 4 <br /> . Little men! BeckyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803466776107175001noreply@blogger.com